Tears Tears Tears :((

I often wondered why people consider ‘tears’ as a consequence or harbinger of ‘crying’.  Then I started analyzing why they do that and I was just scared away. I use the term ‘people’ here mostly for the test cases I have scrutinized.

First of all, many people do not know or understand what emotions are.
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1. There is a general tendency that the word ‘emotion’ itself is associated with a bad/unwanted mental fluctuation;
2. The moment they encounter a word ‘emotion’, i see silent startles behind the curtain of those social/professional masks and immediately the discussions/arguments are sidelined in a frantic attempt to avoid all further encounters;
3. The first and foremost response upon watching ‘tears’ was to mock or ridicule or go sarcastic; (openly or not)
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Few of them of course know the lachrymal glands to an extent that the eyes are moisturized to avoid dryness blah blah., but thats all for them.  You can’t make them believe that ‘emotions’ as is, are a gift given to the man kind.

Human beings are biologically wired to undergo various emotions everyday, only that a very few of those sensory responses are actually exhibited out to the external world. Sometimes you can’t even control them, right? In fact, it is this same, unique ‘wiring’ that separates us Species from the rest of the flora & fauna.  Emotions are not different in men and women but the response or understanding of it, shown out to oneself or the world differs. A soccer player breaking his shins would only give a sense of pain in every mind that watched him, but the responses would vary from masochistic to sadistic, with another hundred types of ‘oomph’ sounds in between. This is because the ‘recording’ of an event in mind, and the analysis that goes into, are done by the same parts of the brain in every individual.  But the outcome and response vary according to one’s knowledge of it, previous experience, surroundings and the current state of mind at that point.


And so is this another ‘wiring’ stuff that every other emotion is just attached to the lachrymal strings. The moment an emotion crosses a certain threshold that you will see the eyes becoming moist.  Why? Because ‘tears’ are the 2nd most important tool given to us for all non-phonological communication, the first being the ’skin’ or ‘touch’.  The uniqueness of being able to shed ‘tears’ not only links it to the supremacy of neural design in mankind statistically,  but also that the importance of it deserves a full-fledged scientific research into those unknown realms that answer and un-answer the thousands of questions that blew your and my mind every day, over ‘tears’.

Tears often make new friends and make bonds tighter.   Tears help communicating complex emotions in a simple, short and effective way. If at all emotions are a sensory high within the brain, I believe ‘tears’ are a way to stabilize it for an equilibrium.  Not sure, whether I am actually venting out my senses to the external world, but at least I,  stand evidence to the fact that every emotion causes tear shed.    Tears vindicate what I speak or think and they also help not leaving any ever-lasting imprint in my gray matter.  I say this may be because I have endured many of those emotions my fellow beings are not privileged enough to go through, but yes tears helped me to move on. and on. and on.

People may not study all these things, but the next you see some tear shed, don’t just think there is just pain, but  look within yourself for more answers.  He/she may actually be laughing too. And of course, those eyes and mind will be watching you though, from behind the curtain of a thin watery layer.

‘Happy’ tears  :((

They Said:

In the whole world, there is no study so beneficial and so elevating as that of the Upanishads. It has been the solace of my life, it will be solace of my death.
- Schopenhauer, German Philosopher

'Health' is often man-made :)

IMG_2587, originally uploaded by balusss.

If only you agree that there is a direct relation of what you eat to your overall health, if only you are convinced of the cycle of influence (Food->Sleep->Work->Performance->Success->Food), may be then that you would need to read further.
Millets were a major part of the diet in ancient India. What our ancestors relished before rice/wheat became main stream agricultural products, has now of course become a portion of our recipes, but then.. um, here is one such extraordinary recipe.

Millet Magic - Add these 8 grains to wheat (each 250gm all to 1kg wheat) and it makes the magic flour for you. You can believe what difference 'health' can make, only if you experience it.
Long live .. Traditional India.

wheat, mung bean(pesalu), fenugreek(menthulu), chikpeas(sanagalu), corn, jowar(jonnalu), soya, horse gram (ulavalu), black-eyed-peas(bobbarlu) and pearl-millets(sajjalu)

While i like each of them individually, horse-gram being my fav, it really turned out very well that the mixture of all these can make the best 'atta' for us. Have been using this for ~2 years and I vouch for its supremacy. The rotis are soft and simply taste healthy :) You only have to try them and u will never use that normal flour again.

Bon appetit.

Behaviour by Definitions? OR is it the other way?

When 'meetings' become monologues where some boss gives down what his boss told him:
walk out of such meetings carelessly and let them know people should gather in conf rooms for a reason

When a 'team' becomes a bunch of sub-teams joining together for the sake of functionality with no binding to other sub-teams:
dishonour every such sub-team and let them know that all sub-teams and every individual are part of the team

When a 'colleague' becomes someone spying on you with daily reports to your boss:
um.. you can't actually do anything here.. just don't become one yourself and don't forget to smile at him every time you meet :)

Ever observed how you made good friends and why you did that? Who came very close and who couldn't ever do so?

Ever observed how you made good friends and why you did that? Who came very close and who couldn't ever do so? Here's my analysis...

keeping relations is not so easy, but not everyone is worth keeping too. If you don't find people giving you enough energy and if you are not able to give the same back, then the relation will soon break or become boring. And thats perhaps why we have so many people listed in our mobiles but we would never actually be in touch with them. We subconsciously look for things that gratify a physical, mental or psychological need OR we unknowingly engage in issues/persons that directly/indirectly address a visible or not so point that we personally have interest in.

Don't worry too much about those people withering away, because they will come back or you will go to them if you ever will have a point in common that interests both of you.

And again there are people who do not understand this philosophy or practicality (whatever you call this). Its not their fault but they are not very well designed internally to understand such matters of diversity in social behaviour and so will forever be incoherent to grasp the dynamics of life.

And finally there is one class of people who do not have many friends, or who do not have friends at all. If you think they might be having any psychological problem, need a counselling etc., then you are utterly mistaken. They are just so unique that they didn't have an opportunity to meet their best buddies yet. But they surely will. I am not including here people who seriously need some medical intervention to correct their social lives, but I want to caution every one of you not to ignore or misunderstand those unique souls just because you can't understand the veracity of behavioural dynamism. Its your problem. not theirs.

:)

my first own haircut

I did my first haircut today on my own. I am really happy not for it came out pretty well but for i have been thinking of doing this for a decade or more.

I don't pretend Gandhiji would be happy with this but I personally have vouched today that there is no more apartheid practiced in my family, if at all it existed in my forefather's times.

But whatever...

zero cut, crop cut, navy cut, military cut, air cut, mutt cut, basin cut... my list is ready for the never ending experiments.... :D

Masks... Masks... Masks...

Its not the first time i felt the dire need of a mask to cover my face, just to let me not show my original mind...
Its not the first time i get a feeling that my frankness is actually hurting someone and i should avoid it...
Its not the first time i am hit back hard just because i spoke something without any actual pun/truth but am misunderstood...

eh..
looks like i have to smile at people who do foolish things and can't accept a genuine feedback...
looks like i have to keep quiet when some one "expects" a nice reply...
looks like i have to appreciate something that i actually loathe...

phew... but i always preferred no mask..even when it actually meant losing a friend.  They would someday realize i am their friend, but the problem is that no one ever returned back realizing this fact.  This makes me more uncomfortable and force me to change myself...

not sure... but i believe masks are not good.